On Wednesday’s we HighlightHER 👑
This week I got to know more about Brandy James. She was nominated because of her strength to push through and rise above some of life’s toughest challenges. Brandy talks about finding herself in the midst of it all. I think for a lot of us, we fear what’s on the other side of true growth. Brandy speaks on how she overcame that fear. Thank you Brandy for sharing a piece of you in hopes to inspire all of us!
THERE SHE GO!
Who is Brandy James?
Brandy is a woman of faith, determination, and strength. She is also a wife, mother, sister, and aunt.
What do you value most in life?
I value God, family, and self the most in life.
What are some of your biggest accomplishments?
Despite being a single mother of 5 I was able to obtain 3 college degrees while raising my 5 children and working full time. Seeing 2 of my children off to college with both about to graduate.
What are some of the obstacles you have had to go through to accomplish your goals?
I married at 19. During that marriage my ex husband was abusive to me and used drugs. I was not allowed to further my education because he thought my job was to care for him and his children. Although he was abusive when we were going through the divorce, I had to get used to not being with him and get over him. Once I managed to move pass him, I had to work on my self esteem and redefine me! See I had my first child at 17 and I never really got to experience life because I was busy raising a family and taking care of my ex-husband.
Rediscovering me and what I wanted in life was hard, but I did it. Parenting was an obstacle, lack of money was an obstacle, past hurts was an obstacle. The biggest obstacle was missing my kids’ events because of class. These were all obstacles that I had to get through.
What advice do you have for women pursing their dreams?
Self-care is a huge part of your growth. Always make time for YOU!!!!! We often times have time for everything but us. Commit to 15 minutes (at the least) of me time daily, even if it’s just sitting alone or taking a walk… do it! You can’t get where you are going without the proper care of your mental and physical well-being. It’s okay to talk to a life coach or therapist to process life. Always remember to keep God first (or whoever you believe in). Don’t let titles define who you are!!!! Yes, you’re a mom, but once the kids are grown and on their own, who are you? What do you like to do outside of cheerleading, football and basketball? Do you still have a connection with your friends? Hobby’s? Don’t let titles, jobs, and others define who you are. Stay centered and true to you. If God is first everything else will fall in place. There is no such thing as excuses. If you want it bad enough you will make the necessary arrangements to make it happen. Every excuse you make pushes your dream/goal out further.
What do you love most about being a woman?
The sensitivity that comes with being female. I love the ability to care and love. I love helping and not thinking twice about it. I love my fierceness and determination.
How do you handle maintaining all the relationships in your life?
I must admit that it’s still something that I struggle with but not as much as I use to. I have a husband who understands that I have a demanding job and he tries to help as much as possible because once we are done, we usually spend that one on one time afterwards if it’s a busy week.
I live by a calendar, but I make sure that my priority is God (church), Family, Work in that order. So, I try to make sure my time is divided by the level of importance with the above-referenced three items priority. Each day I have 15 minutes of me time and at least 2 times per month I have a complete day all about me. Celebrating me and spoiling me, sometimes that’s just sleeping (lol).
If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be?
How cruel people are. No one seems to care anymore. No one wants to help others anymore. I would change that if I had the power to.
What do you hope Brandy James’ legacy will be?
She cared! Not just about herself, but about everyone around her. She came, she saw, she conquered every adversity she faced.
What encouragement or uplifting words do you have for all women?
We are born nurturers. Do not let life, men, work, or bad experiences make you so bitter that you forget to nurture yourself and those around you. Always care, love, and be present. We have one life, live it to the fullest. Plant seeds of love and positivity and watch them manifest.