Personal accountability can be hard to accept. Holding ourselves responsible for things we did or didn’t do takes a deeper level of commitment to our growth. Accountability is essential to our growth. Without it, we are putting on a facade to ourselves and others.
When things don’t go our way and other people are involved, it’s so easy to blame others. We can point the finger and say everyone else has weaknesses, which caused something to fail. Even more intriguing is that if we felt we didn’t have any weaknesses, why didn’t we help the others who did. Why would we allow the team to fail just to prove the weaknesses of others. Pride and lack of accountability.
In life, as we get older, there’s no one telling us to grow up. There’s no one saying pick up your socks, pay your bills, talk out your childhood traumas, etc. etc. We have to want that for ourselves. If we are treating people who have done nothing to us terribly because of our past, we must hold ourselves accountable to that. We are adults! If we know we are dealing with issues mentally and emotionally, we need to get ourselves the help we need and not use it as an excuse to treat ourselves or others less than we deserve.
We have to make decisions on how we spend our money. This might hit home for some, but I promised to keep it real! We can’t be out here in the latest clothes and shoes, but yet borrowing money for gas and bills. We have to hold ourselves accountable for that. There’s nothing wrong with loving nice things, but we have to be responsible and live within our means.
We all want to be better! Being better is more than saying it. More than preaching it. It’s looking in the mirror DEEPLY. Knowing that everyday won’t be a good day, but when those bad days come we hold ourselves responsible for our part in them. “Well maybe I shouldn’t have said that.” “I should have been nicer to her.” “I should have controlled my emotions better.” Etc.
True growth lies in first seeing ourselves for who really are, holding ourselves accountable, forgiving ourselves and reinventing ourselves! I challenge you this week to become personally accountable! Take those hard looks at yourself and one step at a time, start your road to growth. I’ve said this before, growth isn’t always easy, but it’s necessary. THERE SHE GO!