On Wednesday’s we HighlightHER 👑
This week we are showing love and appreciation to Samantha Allen. I don’t know Samantha personally, but we have been social media friends for some years now! We connected by simply just showing love! Over the years, I have watched her be a single mom and accomplish so much. Every obstacle, she overcame and is a great example to all of us, to never give up. As she said, “it does not matter how long it takes you to achieve your goal as long as you get there”! She is so transparent, that I have been truly inspired by her Heart and Determination! I thank Samantha for interviewing with us! THERE SHE GO!
Samantha Allen is a single mom from Millsboro DE. She has one daughter Kelis (9) and is raising her two nephews Jacob (14) Anthony (13).
What/Who in your life mean the most to you?
“In my life, my kids mean the most to me, along side of my career! Being the only involved parent that any of them have; I play an important role in being present, from homework, to sporting events, to award ceremonies.”
What career are you in or working towards?
“I am currently a Registered Nurse enrolled at Wilmington University working towards my DNP in Pediatric Mental Health.”
What inspired you to choose Nursing and now Pediatric Mental Health?
“I always knew I wanted to be a DNP! I just leaned towards my passion, which is cardiology. However, once I started dealing with Anthony’s multiple emotional disabilities, multiple stays at psychiatric facilities and seeing the lack of mental health resources for adolescents; I knew I wanted to make a change for the youth.”
How do you balance mom life and student life and work life?
“I struggle balancing work life, mom life and student life honestly! It consists of many late nights and early mornings. There are no breaks, but I’m excited to finish. Multitasking seems to be a gift to me because I somehow just get it all done.”
What’s the first wake up call you had in chasing your dreams and how did it change you?
“I think that growing up without the permanent presence of my parents was my wake up call. My mother struggles with addiction and my father was never ready to be a single father to a little girl, let alone a teenage girl. I was bounced around a lot with many less-than stable living conditions. I had to mature at an early age. I got my first job at 14 and learned to maintain and survive on my own. I was irresponsible and got pregnant as a senior in high school. I knew that I did not want my daughter to grow up the way I had and that I had to break the cycle.”
What inspired you to keep going during hard times in chasing your dreams?
“I think my inspiration has always come from what I lacked in life. We all have dreams of living in big houses or taking fancy trips; I wanted to succeed far more than I ever wanted to fail. I had a little person who solely depended on my success to fuel her fire, so that one day she would become a successful adult.”
Where did your inspiration come from in getting custody of your nephews?
“My nephews have had a less than fortunate upbringing, they’ve been placed in multiple foster homes, exposed to traumatic experiences and have just lacked stability. They were placed with a foster parent for an extended amount of time. They seemed settled and we had maintained a relationship when their emotional disabilities had gotten in the way of their placement. I unexpectedly received a phone call that changed my life with a decision that had to be decided on almost instantly. I knew I had to save them from the system and try to give them the stability that none of us had growing up.”
How has stepping up in their life changed you?
“I think that this experience has changed me because I now know what true love is. My daughter had shown me that, but she was a responsibility that I created on my own and knew I had to protect. When I received the phone call, I knew without a doubt what had to be done, but at the end of the day, it was a choice. These boys have struggled with so much in their mere 13-14 years on this planet. People who were supposed to be there forever had given up on them, made them feel like less than a priority and let their addictions cloud their children’s lives. But when I see them, they look at me every day with pure love in their eyes. It has been the furthest thing from easy but seeing them happy, thriving and healthy has made it all worth it.”
What advice do you have for single moms wanting to chase their dreams?
“The advice I have for single moms is to never give up. Strong women always have a way of making a way out of no way. There will always be barriers, it is how you overcome those barriers that define you.”
What advice do you have for all women who want to give up?
“My advice for women is follow your dreams, take the job, sign up for the class. Education is something that no one can take from you and it does not matter how long it takes you to achieve your goal as long as you get there!”