Change is difficult in any form, but especially internally, what I like to call from the soul out. I believe we all want to be better people in some way, but the work it takes to truly face our weaknesses has to be consistent, which Hell, is HARD!
Some of us may face distractions and disruptions of our peace, and we can either vibrate higher or we can humiliate ourselves on social media, at work, etc. I don’t know about y’all but I’ve humiliated myself a few times in the past over nonsense, at the end of the day.
Some of us may face holding on to anger, which no matter how hard we try, as long as we are holding on, will always defeat true change. We end up taking our anger out on the wrong people, which leads to an unwanted path of destruction.
Some of us may have habits that are hard to get rid of and I’m not talking about just drugs….cursing, sex, to just name a few. That may require us to change our surroundings, just as much as ourselves.
Some of us may have change right in front of us, but the fear of losing our comfortability, fear of the unknown, is holding us back from what we could be.
Some of us don’t even know ourselves, to even know what we need to change. So we start being what we see, being like someone else, everyone else, without ever knowing who we really are.
What change from the soul looks like to all of us, will look different, but we are all similar in the wanting of growth. True growth. Thinking before we speak. Not reacting at all. Learning how to communicate. Letting go. Changing our surroundings. Stop being scared. Get to know ourselves. All of this is so much easier said than done, but that’s why change has to be a true WANT from the soul.
We struggle with change because there’s no one to check us, but us! There’s not a handclap, there’s not a thousand likes or a million views. There’s just you faced with you. What “you”do you want to be faced with?
Finding true peace isn’t being complacent. Peace is knowing yourself, your weaknesses and being at peace with the work you have to put in daily, to show up every day as your best self. Even on bad days, peace is being able to wheel it back in to, “what did this teach me?”
This week I challenge you to write down what change means to you. Things you would like to stop, things you would like to be better at, things you would like to learn more about, something new you would like to try, things that bring you peace. I find writing things down gives me more of a visual, more of a seriousness, more of a meaning.
Give you a secret, my friends are I are huge “Being Mary Jane” fans, we love post it notes. We write daily mantras. Quotes, things as simple as “Be nice today” lol or even deeper “you are not what you been through” or “day 10 of no smoking, you got this,” read them every day. You would be surprised of the effect that it has on your energy and your mood. We have them on our mirrors, walls and doors. As we get through things we change them up!
The thing about change is it’s constant, that’s why it has to be a want from the soul. Constant evolving. Constant learning. The journey of self is never ending. What are some things you would like to change? What are you going to do about it? Remember the only handclap you need is your own. THERE SHE GO!