On Wednesday’s we highlightHER👑
This week we are honoring mother, wife and my sister La Shonda Brown. She has always been an inspiration to me as my big sister. She is a woman of God, but will quickly remind you, that’s not to be confused with perfection. She is an amazing wife and mother who leads her family in spirit and grace. She’s an encourager who continues to grow daily! She reaches out! She always makes sure everyone is doing well, prays for all of us, asks us how we are doing and sends inspirational messages! She is an example of what TSG! stands for. Shonda talks about life as a wife, mother, Christian, health advocate and how she makes everyday work for her. She hopes this will remind other women, in their daily challenges they are not alone! THERE SHE GO!
Who is La Shonda Brown?
“I am a 39 year old ball of energy with a classy attitude that is tamed by a 42 year old husband and 2 teenage daughters (14 & 12). I love experiencing new adventures, event planning and watching my family grow; grow in age, grow in love, and grow in God. My favorite and the most challenging task that I have been assigned to are being a mother and wife. I enjoy being that “person” that is able to solve the complicated homework equation, inspire and uplift the tired husband, wipe the unseen tear, and ease the worried and scared mind. These things contribute to the imperfect, “beautifully scarred” woman that I am proud to look at each day.”
As a mother of 2 teenage girls, what does woman empowerment mean to you?
“Teenagers have a reputation of being classified as “handfuls”. Well, I have 2 handfuls that need guidance, unconditional love, encouragement, discipline and deal with mental challenges often. They are faced with so many challenges of society, that their mental and physical structure must be strong enough to deal with real life issues. My main job is to love and provide for them, but my personal job is to demonstrate values, strength, integrity, humbleness and determination so that they understand what it is to be a strong woman. I lead by example, so that when my footsteps become too small to follow, they are able to walk alone and pass on what I have given them.”
What are some of your daily challenges as a mother and wife and how do you overcome them?
“My biggest challenge is “time”. As time does not repeat or stop for anyone, being conscientious of my time and making sure that I am utilizing every moment is important. I plan my days, nights, and weeks with calendars, reminders and alarms, but as each night completes itself, I still feel incomplete. Incomplete in feeling that I could have done more, or completed more. I struggle with this constantly and have yet to find the perfect medium, but meanwhile everything works itself out.”
You have been living a healthy lifestyle for over a year now. What encouragement do you have for women when it comes to getting healthy?
“Healthy is not always WEIGHT LOSS. It can be “weight gain” at times when your fat turns to muscle, and it can be nothing when you are just maintaining. I was able to realize the fact that I was unhealthy. The things that I was eating reflected in my body. I ate whenever I felt like it, with no restrictions. It became difficult for me to get out of bed, stay awake, and deal with life. I watched my husband lose weight within an hour (as it felt), but he was dedicated and worked hard. I was in denial in thinking that I was fine but deep down in my heart, I knew I had to change because I was miserable. Every woman has their moment of reality when you are FED UP. When you become FED UP, change needs to occur or else you will keep letting DENIAL rule your life. SO GET FED UP, so you can allow your transformation to begin. Your body talks, make sure you listen.”
How long have you been married and what does a healthy marriage mean to you?
“I have been married 15 years as of May 8, 2019 to wonderful man that has provided for our family in such an amazing way. A healthy marriage is a combination of love, caring, communication, trust and compromise as statistics, magazines and books quote. My healthy marriage entails of arguments, disagreements, happiness, craziness, tears, laughter, late nights, fun, impromptu outings, date nights, togetherness, hugs, cuddles, kisses, surprises, and prayer. Although, these things are forms of communication, it’s the “realness” of life. It’s another job that you punch in on the timeclock, but you never punch out. A healthy marriage is not built on possessions and emotions, its built on a “FOUNDATION” that has been created through GOD. Your foundation is what keeps your house standing and God is what keeps it clean and maintained.
How do you balance being a mom and wife and who you need to be yourself?
“Knowing yourself has got to be the first thing that you establish when trying to balance anything. When you can’t define YOU, pretending occurs and that overwhelming feeling sits in your mind because you have no idea what to do or how to react when you are positioned in difficult circumstances. I clearly know ME. I have flaws, flipped edges, attitude, sass, style…etc. I know what makes me upset and I know what makes me happy. As I am growing, I’ve learned that my help comes from the LORD. I can’t predict tomorrow, I can’t go back to yesterday, I have to stand in the present and allow God to use me in whatever way I need to be used. I allow each day to speak for itself.”
What does FAITH mean to you?
“Faith is something that every person who believes in Jesus Christ is instilled with. It requires ACTIVATION before it can work. Once its ACTIVATED, then YOU have to work..you have to pray… you have to work and you have to pray. FAITH without work is DEAD!!! Activating your faith puts it in ACTION, BELIEVING in your faith puts it in REALITY.”
What or who has inspired you the most in your life and why?
“My parents: As a child, I was mostly with my mom because my dad was over the road truck driver. I watched them go through and overcome so many hard and difficult times. As time passed, I also watched transformation in both of them that allowed me to know that anything is possible. Their inspiration helps remind me that TROUBLE don’t last always and on my worst day, I know that GOD is real.
My grandmother: Oh, how there is nothing like a grandmother’s love. She has 94 years of wisdom that she is able to speak to me, no matter the hour or day…I WILL LISTEN.. She commands my attention effortlessly and her inspiration is unique, but true. She has a strong and determined mind that requires no second guess when she speaks.
My Husband: He was set aside, just for me. His kindness and sweet spirit motivates me as he can handle difficult issues with ease. His willingness to help anyone in need for a minute or 2 hours at any given time makes him distinguished. His dedicated attitude allows him to excel gracefully. His caring spirit always can find the best out of any BAD SITUATION. Although, I know I am a HANDFUL, I know he was handpicked by God to create a better me.
My daughters: As I am traveling this journey of life with them, they keep me grounded. They inspire to be MORE. More than what I was yesterday, better than I am today. They keep my head on straight and they challenge my inner spirit. Without them, I would never know if I have accomplished anything right in my life. When I look at them, watch them pray, encourage their friends, encourage themselves, I challenge myself to be more as I am their example.”
If you could leave women with one quote on encouragement, what would it be?
“A GLOWING woman can help other women GLOW and still be LIT!!!”