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On Wednesday’s we highlightHER 👑

This week we are highlighting the beautiful soul, Shawnee’ Walker. She is a mother and author who was nominated by other women for inspiring through her children’s books and her caring and loving energy. Shawnee’ lets us in on what she has learned following her dreams and loving herself. She represents Kindness, Dedication and Love! Thank you for sharing a piece of yourself with us. THERE SHE GO!

Who is Shawnee’ Walker?

“I am a mother, author and advocate.

What are some of your best qualities?

“Two of my best qualities would be determination and optimistic. Determination because I set goals in everything I do, and I try my hardest to work diligently to achieve them. Optimistic because I think it’s important to find the light in any dark situation, and focus on the positive rather than the negative.”

What has your journey of self love been like and what advice do you have for other women on their journey?

“My journey to self love has been bitter sweet. Learning to love myself has been a process and it still is. For the last year I have made it my mission to evolve into the best woman I can be, and I work at it daily. Advice I have for women who are trying to find and love themselves, is to have accountability and do the work. Dig deep and tackle all the issues you have from the petty issues all the way to the really ugly toxic issues. Learn to love yourself for who you are from the inside out, once you master that then you will be able to love others genuinely and in a healthy way.”

You are an author of Children’s Books. How did you find your passion and what do writing these books mean to you?

“I was inspired by my son to write my first children’s book Milo’s Day at School. My son has epilepsy and I saw a need to spread awareness and educate children in the community on epilepsy, so I wrote a children’s book called  Milo’s Day at School. It started out as just a passion project but when I finally published it, I receive pretty good feedback so I turned it into a series with my second children’s book titled Milo’s Cool New Glasses.

What was the hardest obstacle you had to overcome in pursuing your dreams and how did you do it?

“The hardest obstacle I had to overcome was self doubt and judgement of others. I would ask myself if I was good enough and if could really write and self publish a book on my own. It was very hard in the beginning, because I didn’t know where to start. I did a lot of research, but there were plenty of days where I just wanted to give up but I had a purpose to fulfill.

How has becoming an author changed you and your life?

“Becoming an author has changed my life because I realized that whatever I set my mind to I can do it without a doubt. It’s also a great feeling to know that something I created will always be out there to inspire, motivate and encourage others.”

What means the most to you in life?

“What matters most to me in life is peace and gratitude. Without peace we are just living in turmoil. It’s important to have gratitude because it helps us to be thankful and positive despite our circumstances.

How do you balance your life so you don’t forget about yourself?

“I balance self care in my weekly routine by spending time alone even if it’s just an hour here or there, taking myself out to lunch, reading self help books, or doing something enjoyable with family/friends.

If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be and why?

“If I could change one thing about the world it would be to have a cure for all sickness, and diseases. We only have one life to live and it’s very unfortunate that many people spend it being sick. My hope would be for everyone to be happy and healthy.

What empowering words can you leave the women of TSG?

“Three empowering words to share with TSG would be align, vision, and purpose. We have to align our goals, with our vision, to fulfill our life’s purpose.”

Shawnee’

Growing out of the Old.

On our journey to finding self, we all find things about ourselves we don’t like. We probably notice those things first to be honest. Why don’t we like them though? Physical dislikes could be the seed of doubt that’s been placed against our beauty. We have to learn to accept our physical flaws and embrace them as our uniqueness. But what about those qualities about ourself that could be changed; like our attitudes, our thoughts, our communication, our motivation, just to name a few. Do we stay stuck in the routine of what we have been accustomed to? Maybe we have done some growing in those areas, but does that mean there’s no more room for growth?

When I look back on the times I wish I would have done things differently, I’ve learned to look at my mindset, and who I was internally then, that made me make certain decisions or act a certain way. Although those experiences made me who I am today, I can’t bring who that person was mentally and emotionally to who I am today. That person would hold me back from what I have become. Just as I continue to grow; the mindset I have today won’t continue to make me successful unless I’m willing to keep growing.

We are all doing the work and putting in the effort to be better people. But that doesn’t mean we still aren’t carrying old ways with us. We all have gotten in our own way. We have to be willing to grow past that. If we know we have a communication problem, we aren’t going to reach the height of our potential if we think that’s all it can be “a problem.” If we know our attitudes are negative, we will never be who we need to be for ourselves, if “that’s just how I am.”

What holds each of us back is different. With every new level we reach in life, there will be new obstacles that approach that will require shedding those old ways. When we shed old ways, we allow room for new growth to happen. When new growth happens, we mentally, physically and emotionally become better for ourselves and the people around us.

I challenge you this week to dig deep and find what’s holding you back. What’s some old ways you are still carrying, that could be stopping new doors from opening? The best part about growing out of old ways is the new level of yourself waiting on the other side. Enjoy each day, be present, but never ever stop growing. THERE SHE GO!

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On Wednesday’s we highlightHER 👑

This week I am very excited to be showcasing Author, speaker, emotional wholeness coach and all around inspiration to women Yah Hughes. Yah was nominated by women who admired her beauty inside and out, her transparency and her passion for helping women grow. Yah’s book “Hello Me” has been used as a “tool” amongst women in helping to find and value ourselves along our journey. Yah’s values and passion align with what TSG represents. She is powerful, determined, empowering and confident. I thank her for taking the time to inspire! THERE SHE GO!

Interview:

1. Who is Yah Hughes?

“Yah Hughes is a woman who has shown herself to be resilient, every evolving and authentic. Who happens to be a cultivator; one who fosters growth, change and fearlessness. She’s a wide, mother, sister, friend, author, speaker and ordained elder to name a few. She’s just a woman who DECIDED to trust God, pursue wholeness and share her discovery with the world.”

2. What would you say has impacted you the most in life?

“Pain. Pain has been my catalyst for change, it’s the one thing I don’t want to allow for me to be defined by but it’s also the reason why I’m here today. It’s aided to who I am. So I’d say it’s been pretty impactful 😂. Most people run from it, or lose themselves at the hands of it, but for me, it’s been what’s changed me the most.”

3. You are the Author of “Hello Me!” What inspired you to write the book and deliver it to the world?

“In my work as a emotional Wholeness coach, I met countless women who struggled with embracing who they are and who they’ve become. So I wanted to provide a tool that helps women embrace the greatest and weakest parts of themselves. To stand in their “internal mirror”. With over 600 copies sold, it’s safe to say it’s an impactful and sought after tool.”

4. What were some of your biggest challenges when writing the book and how did you overcome them?

“Time! With working full time, speaking, coaching and the daily demands of family life, it at times was hard to focus and carve out time. One of the ways I overcame it was to stick to a strict writing schedule, every morning 4:45-6:45am. Staying in for a season, no hanging out, no to idle time etc. It really was about being intentional and remembering my why.”

5. What does it mean to you to participate in events as a motivational speaker?

“It’s very important to me to be in places and spaces that align with my core values of impacting, transforming and being authentic, so I am very selective of where I participate because it’s apart of my purpose. So it means everything to me to be able to cultivate and provide women with the tools to live a meaningful and purposeful life.”

6. What do you value most in life?

“My family, my word to myself (authenticity, honoring my commitments to ME) and my relationship with God.”

7. If you could recommend one book all women should read (outside of yours lol) what book would you recommend and why?

“Oh, that’s easy …Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. It’s life changing. It speaks of the power of vulnerability and overcoming shame. It’s my belief that so many of our (women) issues stem from how we see ourselves and the feelings behind it. If we could be more vulnerable and comfortable in ourselves we’d be more fierce.”

8. If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be and why?

“I’m doing it, how we understand our emotions and the power we have within ourselves. When we change our relationship with ourselves and our pain, we can change the trajectory of our lives and the lives of generations to come.”

9. What advice do you have for women on the journey of finding themselves?

“Don’t give up, you deserve to be the happiest, healthiest version of you, the women God created and intended for you to be. Keep going, it’s coming, one step at a time. You owe it to yourself to see it on the other-side.”

10. What is one empowering quote that you can leave us all with?

“It’s never too late to become who you’ve been destined to BE! BE HER”

Yah

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On Wednesday’s we HighlightHER!👑

This week we are highlighting the beautiful Orleana Bland. Women in the community have nominated Orleana because of her dedication to her goals and her outreach through event planning. She is a positive voice and promotes women empowerment by helping to provide women with the opportunity to network. Bringing women together in a positive way to help each other achieve their goals is what TSG is all about. Orleana represents community and togetherness. Thank you for allowing us to get to know you. THERE SHE GO!

Interview:

What are some of the best qualities of Orleana?

I am hardworking, independent and loyal.

Where are you from and what was your childhood like?

I am from Seaford, Delaware. My childhood consisted of getting good grades in school. I was in a female group called Unique, teaching myself about sisterhood at a young age. If I didn’t go to Florida for summer vacation, I was attending summer classes to prepare me for the school year. I took my education extremely serious. Graduated in the top 10 in my class.

What’s your goal right now in life?

My ultimate goal is to be a homeowner. No one in my immediate family owns their home, they are renting. I want to have big family BBQ’s, family reunions, parties, etc. at my own home. Have something set in stone for my children.

How do you keep your focus on your goal with other distractions in life?

I pray constantly. If any distractions start taking place, I let God lead the way.  

What does women empowerment mean to you?

Women empowerment to me is building, bonding, inspiring, and connecting with other women to strengthen their lives and help encourage them to reach their goals.

Name one thing in your life that changed your outlook. 

My grandmothers’ death changed my outlook in life. She was such full of life. She helped so many people constantly that stole from her or lied on her. Her heart was full of love. On her death bed she called for me and I promised her that I will continue being the kind-hearted person I am and finish school.

Express to other women about the power of networking and how to go about it.

Networking is another key to success. You must know the right people for the right things. Interacting at work events, participating at college events or even to fundraisers in the community; you just never know who you will need in the future. The saying its not about what you know, its about who you know. Just by knowing the right person could save you millions. 

If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be and why?

If I could change anything in the world, I would say how this welfare system is setup. No offense, but its so many mothers out here who want to succeed but choose not to because they are so comfortable with the welfare system taking care of them. When there are other women working 2 to 3 jobs to make ends meet that cant receive any assistance when they fall short 1 time out of a year.

Who is your favorite author and what is a good book of theirs to recommend?

I read urban fiction books, Jaquavis Coleman

If you could leave women with your favorite quote, what would it be?

”One of the lessons I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals. And so when I hear about negative and false attacks, I really don’t invest any energy in them, because I know who I am.”- Michelle Obama

 –Orleana

Goal Setting✨

We all have countless goals we want to achieve. Some short term, some long term. But what are we actually doing to get there? Are we doing the work and staying disciplined? Are we making excuses? Are we holding ourselves accountable? Are we allowing ourselves to be uncomfortable?

It’s important to always know the “why” behind the goal. Why do I want to achieve this, why am I passionate about this? When we know our why, we tend to always revert to that to keep us going when times get hard. As we all know when it comes to achieving anything, TIMES DO GET HARD!

With a Goal comes making a plan. The plan consists of the steps we need to take to achieve our goal. This is where the work comes in. The closer we get to our goal, the harder those steps will seem. It takes discipline, self awareness and the feeling of uncomfortableness. That can be hard to face head on, as we all know. The key is to remember why.

I can say from experience that being uncomfortable has always been hard for me. It could be something as simple as a presentation for a large group. The task itself doesn’t seem difficult, but being up there in front of all those people, for me, is. It took me a long time to network and connect, because I’m such a “To myself” type of person. I had 2 choices. I could accept that’s just how I am, or I could could break self barriers and be better than I’ve ever been.

Moving through these barriers are small wins that deserve celebrating. Whatever that means to each of us. Each small win leads to achieving our goal. Ladies we all know that superwoman feeling when we achieve a goal. Despite it all, we did it!

We can’t expect to do a couple things and achieve a goal. We can’t expect to continue to be the same person if we want to grow. Achieving any goal requires growth, some deeper than others. This week I challenge you to set a goal, know your why, make a plan, be disciplined, be uncomfortable and celebrate your small wins until your goal is achieved! Don’t ever doubt yourself! And when you feel like giving up, remember your why! Let your why be bigger than your fears! THERE SHE GO!

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On Wednesday’s we highlightHER 👑

This week we are shining light on Elysha (Lytee) Mason. Founder of My Sisters’ Glo, she has inspired many mothers in our community. Women have nominated this Queen for her endless work in the community, her charisma that brightens others day and how she is unapologetically herself. Lytee reminds me in her interview that as women, and as mothers we are all human. The things that connect us can help empower the things that make us unique. Thank you for sharing a piece of your life with us. THERE SHE GO!

Interview:

1. If you could describe yourself with your favorite quote, what would it be and why?

“Though she be but little, she is fierce”-Shakespeare I love this quote because it embodies who I am. I am literally only 5’1 in height but I am big in spirit which is what I remind myself of when I’m feeling insecure or unsure of myself.

2. What does motherhood mean to you?

“Motherhood is an individualized journey. It’s subjective to who the mother is. It’s about being the best version of yourself to be the best mother your kids need and recognizing that it changes. Our kids change and as a result just when we figure out how to mother them… we have to change to adapt again lol

3. How do you balance making time for your children and yourself?

“Well, this is a work in progress for me. Myself, like most moms… I sometimes feel guilty for choosing to do things for myself because we are taught that our children have to be our only reason to exist lol. So while my girls are my world I remind myself that I am useless to them if I don’t take care of me. So I use “downtime” or times when they are with their father to indulge in some self-care. I also compartmentalize to make sure they (my girls) have the time they need. I leave work at work, I designate study time for school and when I’m with my girls, I’m fully with my girls.”

4. Explain to the readers about My Sisters’ Glo. What is it’s mission and how can they get connected?

“My Sisters’ Glo is an organization that I developed to connect moms to a system of support, resources and empowerment. While motherhood is an individualized journey, there is more that connects us than what divides us in motherhood. Sometimes being connected with the next mom is the very thing we need to keep going. My Sisters’ Glo is designed to encourage each mother to be the best version of herself while getting the support and resources she needs in a safe space. Moms can connect with My Sisters’ Glo via facebook: My Sisters’ Glo, Instagram: @mysistersglo or email at mysistersglo@gmail.com. On these platforms is where we post events, resources, and a wealth of encouragement.

5. What are some obstacles you have faced starting your own organization and how did you overcome them?

“I think the biggest obstacle I have faced thus far was my own fear. I have had a lot of support and people willing to donate their time, resources and energy and I have been the biggest obstacle. Fear of failing, fear of what people may think of me, just nonsense self-talk. I overcome them by prayer. My faith is a huge part of my life so when I start feeling fearful I rely on prayer and faith to move me beyond that moment.

6. Name some self care ideas for women who find it hard to balance all the demands of life. 

“I think every woman should assess herself to figure out what she needs and be okay with asking for what she needs. I know social media has us thinking that self -care is taking girls trips (which I do recommend by the way lol), going shopping, or getting pedicures and these things are wonderful (I indulge in all of them lol). But self-care is literally taking care of yourself. so if you need to go to the dr… that’s a form of self-care. If you need to read or journal to release emotions and thoughts, that’s a form of self-care. If you need to sit outside and just be in that moment of feeling the weather… recognizing each breath.. that’s self-care. And please do not feel forced to document your self-care on social media lol take those moments right where you are sis.

7. If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be and why?

“I would erase stigmas and stereotypes. I feel that stigmas surrounding anything is the root of why so many people suffer or hurt others. The state of our very nation is impart due to stigma and stereotypes. Races, religions, sexualities.. all hate each other based off of what they “think” they know about others and people suffering in silence because they’re afraid of what people may say about them if they speak out.

8. You are known to put a smile on people’s faces. How do you stay light hearted?

“Aww, thank you! I really am just myself. I cry, I get angry, I feel every emotion that everyone else feels I just really try to remind myself that a bad moment does not equate to a bad life. I do what I can do and the things I cannot change I do my best to peacefully let it go.

9. What does faith mean to you?

“Faith to me means everything opposite of logic. It means trusting a God I have never seen but can feel. It means trusting that when everything looks bad it’s still gonna work out for my good. Faith is trust to me. If you’re gonna have faith, there’s no need to worry.

10. What words of encouragement can you leave mothers to keep them going? 

“My encouragement to mothers would be to know that you are the best mother your kids could have. Know that even when you feel alone you are not alone. And never be afraid to ask for help. Your children were not born with user manuals and honestly we’re all just winging this motherhood thing! Keep going sis, the world needs you!”

Accountability

Personal accountability can be hard to accept. Holding ourselves responsible for things we did or didn’t do takes a deeper level of commitment to our growth. Accountability is essential to our growth. Without it, we are putting on a facade to ourselves and others.

When things don’t go our way and other people are involved, it’s so easy to blame others. We can point the finger and say everyone else has weaknesses, which caused something to fail. Even more intriguing is that if we felt we didn’t have any weaknesses, why didn’t we help the others who did. Why would we allow the team to fail just to prove the weaknesses of others. Pride and lack of accountability.

In life, as we get older, there’s no one telling us to grow up. There’s no one saying pick up your socks, pay your bills, talk out your childhood traumas, etc. etc. We have to want that for ourselves. If we are treating people who have done nothing to us terribly because of our past, we must hold ourselves accountable to that. We are adults! If we know we are dealing with issues mentally and emotionally, we need to get ourselves the help we need and not use it as an excuse to treat ourselves or others less than we deserve.

We have to make decisions on how we spend our money. This might hit home for some, but I promised to keep it real! We can’t be out here in the latest clothes and shoes, but yet borrowing money for gas and bills. We have to hold ourselves accountable for that. There’s nothing wrong with loving nice things, but we have to be responsible and live within our means.

We all want to be better! Being better is more than saying it. More than preaching it. It’s looking in the mirror DEEPLY. Knowing that everyday won’t be a good day, but when those bad days come we hold ourselves responsible for our part in them. “Well maybe I shouldn’t have said that.” “I should have been nicer to her.” “I should have controlled my emotions better.” Etc.

True growth lies in first seeing ourselves for who really are, holding ourselves accountable, forgiving ourselves and reinventing ourselves! I challenge you this week to become personally accountable! Take those hard looks at yourself and one step at a time, start your road to growth. I’ve said this before, growth isn’t always easy, but it’s necessary. THERE SHE GO!